Fatherhood: A test of faith, love, patience & time

bringingupzoey:

To all of my followers, friends and the one that just check in from time to time, there will be a very important post coming out around 7pm est. please stay tuned….

I AM A DAD, I am scared out of my mind, and it never seems to stop being crazy busy around here…..

There stands three women, an amazing wife, a disappointed mother-in-law, and his hopeful mother.  I know that it may seem a little cliché to make a post about my mother on mother’s day.  But, I wanted to take a moment to say how awesome my mom is.  She has done a fantastic job raising 4 of the best boys that are now awesome men.  As a husband, father and brother I would not be who I am today if it was not due to the efforts of my parents.  My mom has been able to survive raising the VB boys and watched us go out into the world as strong and caring men.  She has watched three of us marry the loves of our lives, and work our butts off to be above average fathers.  She has watched those three become fathers, and try to be the best fathers that we can be.  Through a joint effort with my father, my mother has given us the drive to love and care, to the point of exhaustion, our wives and our children.  This mother’s day my mom still has 4 great boys, three amazing daughter-in-laws and 4 beautiful grandchildren plus my brothers one on the way.  Our family will continue grow, to struggle through the hard parts, to soak in the good parts and this is because of my mom. 

So, today is moms day.  This is the second one for my beautiful bride.  As we sit across the united states from each other, for she is visiting family on the West Coast, I cannot help but to think about what a crazy year it has been.  My amazing wife is such a good mother.  There have been times that I have come home, opened the door and just listened to the things that were going on.  There is something about hearing her sing to our daughter, and to see the mesmerizing look on our daughter face.  No parent has it easy, we all know that if they do, then they are doing it wrong.  Yet, there are many days that she makes it look easy, when on all counts it is not.  She works herself to the point of exhaustion taking care of our darling daughter, and even without rest carries on.  I cannot express the amount of perfection that I see in my beautiful bride, as a wife, best friend and mother of my child.  I also may never be able to thank her enough for being as awesome as she is. 

bujnik asked: Happy birthday.

Thank you!

swayinganyway asked: Happy Birthday! Yay!

Thank you!

Since I have a few moments I wanted to get another post out.  There has been so much going on for my little family that it is hard to keep track of things sometimes.  But, this is a solemn fact of trying to be a good dad.  It is important to keep focused on the here and now.  Making sure that all I do is for the betterment of my beloved wife and daughter. 

I still hold true to the thoughts that I had when I started blogging, that any boy can be a father… but it takes a man to be a dad.  The never ending struggle seems to be in keeping that balance.  To know that we (Dad’s) are the models that our children will look to one day for the fathers that they should be and the men that they should marry.  We strive to be in embodiment of all that is right and good, overcoming the numerous pitfalls that enviably lay in our path.

It still perplexes me that there is THIS community of dad’s blogging about their struggles and achievement’s as the move down this crazy road.  I must say, as I have before and will again, that there are many other dad bloggers out there, all with varying degrees of insight and insanity.  The levity and humor that they bring to all the situations that they find themselves in have helped me in so many ways.  There have been countless times that I have been stressed out, at my wits end, and just reading over their advice, comments and outlooks have allowed me to find the light, dodge the Lego in the middle of the hall, and keep going.

I am still trying to get back into finding time for posting stuff…. Thank you to all that have put up with me, and for all of those that support me.  More to come.

I AM A DAD, I am scared out of my mind, and it is amazing how much one can say in five minutes.